I gave up doing New Year’s Resolutions a few years ago because I had achieved perfection.
Okay, maybe that’s not exactly why I stopped. The real reason is that I never kept my resolutions, so making them was an exercise in frustration. Toward the end of 2015, however, I saw a therapist to talk about my anxiety and stress-related breakdowns. What came out of those discussions was a need for balance in all areas my life. I thought about it, and decided to make a list of New Year’s Resolutions for 2016. This list now hangs over my desk at work:
But what, exactly, makes this list different from all the resolutions I haven’t kept in the past?
I have a desk job and I’m over 40. That’s not a good combination. I also LOVE to knit and watch tv, both of which are very sedentary hobbies. In 2016, I will move around more, whether that’s taking breaks between episodes or walking around my workplace between tasks. I also want to get more regular exercise, but getting up from my desk or the sofa is the big idea.
Do I even need to say anything about this one? Okay, fine. I have a carb tooth. A HUGE one. I’ve started Weight Watchers and we’ll see how that goes, but if I don’t do something soon I will have to buy a whole new wardrobe (and that totally conflicts with resolution #4)
I closed down my personal blog because it was feeling more like deadlines than fun writing, but I have other outlets and plan to stretch these creative muscles in 2016. Expect to see more of me at On Wednesdays! I promise those posts will be more fun, things like book and conference reviews.
2015 was the year of WANT. BUY. and it got way out of hand. I can’t even tell you how much yarn I have. It’s getting embarrassing – especially since I just keep buying more. I also purchased season passes of tv shows, books (can I write that off as a business expense?) and “toys” (get your mind out of the gutter!). I seem to have lost my filter on spending, and it’s time to be more aware of my budget.
Be a friend
I have many wonderful friends in my life, but in 2015 I spent very little time with them. In 2016 I want to see their performances, take road trips with them, and just hang out. And knit with them. Lots of knitting. It’s time to cultivate these relationships instead of taking them for granted.
Read more than I watch
I am a librarian, for heaven’s sake! Yet in 2015 I got into some really bad evening routines. I’d come home from work and plop down in front of the tv during and after dinner (maybe knitting, but mostly playing with my phone) with my shows playing in the background. I don’t have any problem doing this in 2016, but it shouldn’t be all night every night. I need to be reading more! Luckily I can read and knit at the same time with audiobooks – WIN!
Whether it’s across the state, nation, or into another continent, I want to see more places this year than I did last year. I already have a trip to Peru booked, and two beach trips to look forward to, but I think a few more road trips can – and should – be worked into 2016.
Have Furiously Happy adventures!
This is a culmination of all of the above. If you follow The Bloggess you’ll understand immediately, if you don’t, here’s the definition of Furiously Happy in her own words (as told to The Washington Post)
“I came up with the concept of being “furiously happy” years ago after the death of a friend came on the heels of a depression. I was so tired of being sad and feeling hopeless that I went to my next emotion, and that was anger. I was mad that life had thrown so much crap at me all at once, so I decided to be furiously happy. Vehemently joyous. To do everything I could when I was out of a depression to enjoy life, even if it was just from pure spite at the universe. It’s probably not the most healthy way of dealing with depression, but it works for me. It forces me to step out of my comfort zone and take advantage of the times when I’m not in the middle of a depressive episode or anxiety attack.”
These eight things aren’t the same kind of resolutions I had in younger days. Way back when I used resolutions as rules – hard and fast things I HAD TO DO to be happy (i.e. to attract the opposite sex). I now realize how ridiculous that was, and that I was setting myself up for failure and dissatisfaction. My 2016 resolutions are general guidelines that will improve my mental and physical health, leading to longer lasting happiness and a less stressful life.
Did you make any resolutions this year?